Today I attended my very first invitation (that directed personally to me) to witness a wedding ceremony. It was held in GRII, queenstown church.
Basically, it really serves as an eye-opener to what a Christian marriage is like. The whole ceremony, as it was held in a church, appeared to be far more solemn, more serious and more dramatic. Perhaps I attended a few wedding ceremonies before, but this is the first time I could really feel the holiness of a marriage. I was amazed. Truly, it is the work of God, and not just the result of mutual agreement between two persons to live as a husband and a wife.
As the liturgy progresses, the atmosphere felt so sacred. The audiences were so solemn, serious and attentive. We also chanted the song "Great is Thy Faithfulness", which added to the sacral aura. Next, it was time for the choir to perform. They started walking up the stage, and began singing. I couldnt remember what was the song that they performed, but it was an excellent performance that really suits the atmosphere. Between periods, partly amazed and dissolved in the situation, I was thinking that this was what a 'true marriage' is supposed to be. Why held a marriage in a grand five-star-hotels or famous restaurants (like most marriages I attended before)? True, perhaps it would invite many more audience, friends and relatives, but would it then became more meaningful to have those? I'm not saying that it wasn't important, but my point is, marriage is something that's bigger than just a ceremony, in which two persons mutually agreed, their friends and relatives would gather, congratulate the couple, and they went home. More than that, it has far greater meaning!! The Lord participates as a witness, and He Himself is the One who sealed the couple as one. Now, this has become not just the intersection between the desire of individuals alone, but God's hand was there to approve. It was all part of God's plan, as was written on Genesis 2:18 :
' The Lord God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." '
Marriage was hence, Biblical. And this was, I guess, how the holiness comes in. When the joyful couple has a certain dream, and it coincides with God's dream, what could be more beautiful than that? I really feel the joy spread outwards, infecting all the audiences including me.
(Next, the liturgy proceeded towards the preaching session. It was a preach by Pak Amien. He preached of the kind of love that a couple should have, that is agape. The agape love is like the love that God has shown to us, by sacrificing His Only Son to die on the cross. It is the love that is unselfish. It is not a filial love and not eros. After the preach, the attention was then back to the couple. The couple then was asked to confirm their commitments, the exchange of wedding ring and a kiss. After a few words by Pak Amien, taking a photo, then the first session ended. We closed the session in doxology, then the newly weds walked towards the exit as the joyful audience give their thunderous clap to congratulate the two. The next session was a lunch session at the 2nd floor.)
Morals of the story :
Yep.. marriage is indeed beautiful. But it is beautiful if and only if we are ready to respect and witness its holiness. So let's prepare for it faithfully, respectfully, and joyfully, until our time comes.. perhaps 3 years? 5 years? 10 years? 15 years from the moment from now?. But the real joy comes when God is approved of our marriage. 
(PS : Just wondering... what would it feels to be a groom? i mean.. have anyone ever thought? Marriage is a crucial decision! It is not for fun! It really cocoons us of our 'freedom', in a sense. As Stephen Tong in his sermon said, as the image of God, we inherit the sense of His 'Omnipresence'. Thus, we don't want to be bounded!! We want to break free!! We want to travel to many places because we dont want to be 'cocooned' by the spatial dimension! Similarly, we don't like it when people restricts our freedom! But Jesus restricts Himself as a God, by incarnating into the world in the form of flesh. Why?? Why would anyone restrict himself if this is in contrast with his image of the Omnipresent? The reason is the same on why Jesus had restricted Himself : Love..)