Perhaps we've often heard of the saying 'Be yourself!' I would now wonder what does that mean? The problem is, it is often difficult even for that someone to know what his/her true self is. Not always, but sometimes when pressures came, we tend to hide our true 'self'. In our desperation, we wanted suppress it, or sometimes we might even go to the other extreme in our frustration, even though it really makes things worse off. For example, well this might not be a good example, but when someone really wanted to give a present, but rejected over and over, he might smash that present to the floor, in front of the person to whom he wishes to give that present to. (But that is not his real intention! He did it out of desperation!) Or maybe a woman who wanted to fed her baby, she starts diligently, but gets frustrated and soon she splashes everything on the floor which makes the baby cried. (That is not her intention!)
What I wanted to discuss about is something like those examples above, but not exactly so, for you might argue that the woman is being herself as she was temperamental. Well, another case I would like to take from comics. I believe that since comics are made by humans, we can probe into them as they might depict ideal cases, or at least contain philosophies that really correlates towards real life. Now, take the case of Soujiro (I made this post way long ago, still available in this blog). In short, the boy was frustrated that his household was mistreating him. He finally met a wicked samurai who teaches him the philosophy 'the weak shall perish, but the strong victors'. And so he trained himself till later he went back to kill all his family members who once abused him. He pretends to look strong, he even smiles, but was in tears when he stands there, holding his bloody sword in his hand. He soon left off with the samurai, and since then he started a new life as the wicked swordsman's bodyguard, living his new philosophy while burying something deep within: 'He actually loves his family!'
There are many cases like these... found one in One Piece too, when Nami joined Arlong.. In short, cases like these might happen in real lives! The question is, are we trapped within this misleading philosophy? Are we able to be conscious that we are really being ourselves? Or maybe we have been denying it all the time, suppressing it till we can't hear our own cries anymore? When it gets so painful till we became numb? Or even became an ascetic? Or maybe denies our own existence?
Even in comics, adopting this way to solve problems is deemed wrong. As stories in general depicts the ideal, even the author of many comics or movies denies this! These story plots indicated that all of these are wrong philosophies! It is simply a wrong way to live! But this might seem attractive to us since we are prone to it in some way that is really mysterious... Last time I was browsing friendster profiles of many peoples around the world. I found out that there are some people whose profiles really depicted their frustrations in life, to the extent that they wrote that they belonged to hell. Surely, any sane person wouldn't choose to go to hell instead of heaven! Nobody really wants suffering! Unless frustration brings him to an ascetic view or supresses his mindset , but that's really not human in nature.
Now, I've just finished reading 'The Lotus and The Cross', a book that compares Christianity with Buddha, and this makes a lot of sense to me. For anyone out there, I would recommend this book (It is a thin book that can be finished within 2 hours). I'm not trying to promote Christianity despite that I'm a Christian, but I'm just posting my view on this matter. I'm a truth-seeker myself, not a Christian fanatic, and so I'm not negative about any other belief systems. Anyway, let's get back to the topic.
Without giving too much details, the Spirit of Buddhism as I've learned is really related to the above. "The sense of being in control and fully insulated from the world of care. If you break off all attachments, you cease to worry. If you have no loves, you will never have a broken heart. If you cease to love, you cease to suffer. If you do not desire, you can never lose." That is in a nutshell.
Indeed this is an interesting and attractive philosophy to adopt when we suffer. In fact, I really adopted this philosophy myself, long before I learned anything about Buddhism or Christianity, back then when I was still in highschool. I really found it hard to socialize. I actually got some friends that labeled me 'robot', since I was expressionless, well they got it all wrong actually. At some point in time I was hurt. I was like living in a world of my own, where no one would step their foot into. I liked to hid everything, giving a smile in return. That time perhaps I was affected much by Soujiro, (that was the time where I read Samurai X comics) which became my immediate idol. I knew this was wrong, and that time, I actually do hope that someday there would be someone like Kenshin who came and defeat me, broke all of these philosophies. (which really happened in the comic). Still.. I waited for that moment, while I decided to cling to the false philosophy of 'denying' myself.
I waited.. but no one came to defeat me. Till one day I realised that the scenario was different from the original story. In my story, I was defeated, but not by a strong samurai who fought against me and give me a new philosophy, but rather, by someone who is Almighty, but decided to let Himself die to stop me for keeping doing all these things. He did not just died, but reborned. Not just reborned, but He gives me back the true way of living! Not one that hids me away from my true self, but rather, one that regains myself back. I felt freedom! Well..this is what Christianity offers. And if in one point in time I should cry in pain, or maybe cried in desperation, though silently, now I would cry in amazement, in viewing all these loveliness, that somebody would have received me despite all these.. I was joyful because I broke free from all those 'escapisms'! I've found myself again!
(Well, the comics depicts this very well too.. the protagonists usually have those strong characters, full of joy and spirit, sometimes too innocent and straightforward, and really 'being himself') ^_^
Mathew 11:28 : "Come to me, all who are weary and heavy-laden. and I will give you rest."