On relationships and thinking ahead..
Posted by ardianto86 at 05:28 AM on October 2, 2008.
(Continuing an unfinished post of last week..)
Most of the time it is only after you reached a certain stage then new questions begins to pop up, and new topics of thought begin to be available to be explored.. And here it is, now I'm exploring a totally new terrain..
Most people, and many have not engaged in a relationship often plan on what age they should enter marriage. Not wrong, but some just stops there without thinking further about the implications of what 'setting the target' means. Now I am really convinced of one principle that its better not to marry if the quality of the relationship is not mature enough. If we set the target when we must enter marriage, it is to set when we and our partner should be mature and other implications would follow. Setting a rigid time means compromising the possibility of not being mature enough before entering marriage, and my opinion is still that it is better to keep on delaying until its been mature. But how mature is mature? It might be subjective of course.
Relationship period must be seen as a training ground. It is a period where one's character can be moulded more intensively, where we can learn to genuinely show our care and learn to be unselfish. Sometimes it is a period where you can know yourself more, when you can show the worst from within yourselves. Not just personal mouldings perhaps, it is a privilege given that what you do will greatly affect another person, where the other person will be receptive and listen to what you say. In this period, everything good that you do will have double effect. If you improve your spirituality, you will improve hers/his too.. If you are wasting your time by dating too much, you will waste 'double' the time, yours and your partners'. If you have an efficient and quality date, your partner will too.. In this period of time, you will have a major impact towards someone's life. Thus, it is crucial, and it can be very bad influence, or you will be a great blessing. It is no matter if in the end you'll be together or not, but the impact certainly remains..